In our endeavours to be perfect what we don't realise is that we lose golden opportunities for learning. In our striving and struggling to get it right we waste time. In our trying to please all of the people all of the time, having to be perfect, we never discover who we really are. In our having to be perfect by living up to others' expectations we end up feeling exhausted, burned out and no good to anybody, least of all ourselves.
Before you begin this week's tapping script, take a few moments to fill in the blanks to the following two phrases so you can insert your answers easily and personalise your own tapping script.
I have to be perfect otherwise................................................
I have to be perfect or else....................................................
- Even though I have to be perfect otherwise....................................., I deeply and completely love and accept that part of me.
- Even though I have to be perfect otherwise......................................, I'm open to the possibility this is simply a belief that I have created when I was very young, and I'm bringing that into my adult life now in a way which may not be helpful for me.
- Even though I have to be perfect or else.........................................., I deeply and completely love and accept myself no matter what.
- Front of the eye (FE): I have to be perfect
- Side of the eye (SE): I have to be perfect
- Under the eye (UE): And that takes a lot of energy
- Under the nose (UN): I have to be perfect
- Chin (C): Otherwise ................................................................
- Collarbone (CB): I have to be perfect or else.................................................
- Under the arm (UA): Maybe these are simply beliefs that I learned in childhood, decisions that I made that I am bringing into my adult life
- Top of the head (H): I wonder what it would be like to know that the perfect mother hasn't been born that gave birth to the perfect child?
- Even though I have to be perfect otherwise there will be consequences, I won't be liked or loved, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.
- Even though I have to be perfect otherwise I won't be loved, I deeply and completely love and accept that part of me that believes that.
- Even though I have to be perfect and that means I have to try really, really hard all the time and that's exhausting, I love and accept myself.
- FE: There will be consequences if I'm not perfect
- SE: I won't be loved
- UE: I won't even be liked
- UN: So I have to try harder and harder and harder
- C: To please everybody all the time
- CB: I wonder what it would be like to give myself permission to make mistakes?
- UA: Maybe I could give other people permission to make mistakes too
- TH: Maybe I could forgive myself for making mistakes.
- Even though its hard to give myself permission to make mistakes, and its easy for me to forgive other people, I'm open to the possibility the more I forgive myself, the move loving and lovable I am.
- Even though I can't give myself permission to make mistakes, I'm open to the possibility mistakes are golden opportunities for my growth.
- Even though I can't give myself permission to make mistakes, I can acknowledge that I'm not perfect and maybe I'm still lovable.
- FE: I can't forgive myself for making mistakes
- SE: You may say mistakes are learning experiences
- UE: But I won't be liked
- UN: And I won't even be loved
- C: And maybe I could remember
- CB: That the perfect woman hasn't been born that gave birth to the perfect child
- UA: Maybe I'm still lovable when I make mistakes
- TH: I'm open to the possibility that I am worthy of being loved when I make mistakes.
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